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当孩子问你,为何去旅行没带他?

Friday, October 4, 2019
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每个孩子的问题,都需要深思再回答,否则伤害他弱小的心灵。。。
深思,可能要用几个小时才回答到吧?我是不是要跟孩子说,你等一下,让我思考一下?哈哈哈。

目前我的孩子还不会讲话。还没有到达顶嘴的时期。总觉得要准备一下,好像一个项目要开始前,做个模拟事项来测试酱。。。

小时候,你的父母出国玩,没带你,他们怎么回答你呢?

没错的话,我小学时,我父母才有机会出国放松一下。把我们放在最爱的外婆家。哪里是玩具天堂,食物天堂!还有疼我们的舅舅舅母,带我们和表姐弟去看 Ah kua。人生第一次,也觉得他们没什么不同。就声音粗一点,腿的肌肉发达。。。

回归话题,我好像也有问过类似的问题。我父母给了我很实际的回答:以后你赚钱了,就可以出国玩了!

这答案,让我很想迅速的长大。天真的以为长大就是一切。但是,这个又说得没错。当时我没有很伤心,可能我知道我真的还不会赚钱,没有能力去。所以没想太多,继续去玩了。

当时,也没有别的大人说:哟,你们的父母丢下你们去玩了,不要你们了!
看来我成长环境下的成人们都很合作。

现在的孩子是否也是那么实际呢?还是他们觉得父母抛弃他们?

我其实很佩服其他父母能在宝宝小时,带他们出国去玩。别误会,不是羡慕,只是佩服而已(其实自己没够钱,呵呵)。我的闺蜜就这么做了。坐了长途飞机去玩。 回来时,想听他分享一下,看看是否能说服到我也带孩子去玩?然后她的回答是,抄鸡累的。 玩也没去很多地方。虽然她们都知道带孩子就牺牲去玩的地区,但是没想到这么厉害。
还有孩子一定要午睡,吃东西要自煮。单整理行李就。。。
可是,他们有的是回忆。一家三口难忘的回忆。

到这,我想还是免了吧。我当初,每个礼拜出门,整理宝宝的东西都很烦了。。。现在麻木了。可能也熟手了,但是还会忘记带一些东西。。。
今年农历新年,还真是好像坐了10个小时的飞机。从太平回来要10个小时塞车!我投降了。


还有台湾之旅,生了4个月后,我和我老公就飞去台湾了。这是我们生产前的约定,也是个礼物。很多人就问,“吓,你舍得吗?”。 老实说还蛮舍得的。。。哈哈哈,我是不合格的妈妈吧? 坐月期间,我其实24小时没离开过他。也就因为这样,我决定第2个月就给保姆照顾了。
可以说我忍心,还是自私。我希望我也要有私人空间,让我休息一下,我会照顾他更好。
精神上,我们都快崩溃了。每1到2个小时喂奶一次(包括半夜),半夜我还要起身挤奶。不要说矫情还是每个妈妈都是这样过的。只想说,我不一样。先爱自己,才能爱别人,这句话我从这里领会了。也不是不负责的妈妈。从换尿布、冲凉、换衣服、喂吃等,我都可以一手包办,没有问题,也不会埋怨。就是一年365天,抽5到6天玩一下,就是不负责任吗? 就好像工作请假去玩一样的道理。难道老板就觉得你不负责任了吗?


台湾之旅,我们甚至没有视频回去。可想而知,很厉害吧。想念,是一定的。每次挤奶都会翻看他的录影,照片。老公还会有时闹:你是不是想他了? 是不是有愧疚感?
老实说有点。回去要待他好点。 哈哈哈!

其实没有对错,只是要跟你孩子交代好了,就不会有问题吧。妈妈也需要充电。孩子并不是耗电的重要原因。只是妈妈生活上,要找个生活平衡点,而是由各人去决定,并不是由他人去判定,你就是不负责的妈妈。孩子也不想被包袱为,因为父母有了你,又不能做自己喜欢的东西,为你牺牲这样的事情。绝对不是:“因为有了你,我们才不能去玩、去逛街、拍拖、看戏、玩游戏等”这些负面信息。我自己身为我妈的孩子,也不希望有天听到这样的话。听到的话,可能会顶:“你们也没得到我的许可,带我来这个世上把?!” 一巴掌呼过来,结局还真难收局。当然,生活上调节是需要的,无可否认有了孩子变化多,很多事情要搁置一下,好好分配时间。不是做不到,只是迟些才做。

那。。。我要怎么回答孩子呢?

答:妈妈觉得的,如果以后你长大了,可以花自己赚的钱出国旅游,靠自己的话比较有成就感。(当然说这个话,也想必不需要得到回报,我当然并不期望孩子以后带我出国玩)当然,本地旅游,还是有日可行的话,还是会带你一起去玩。要明白哦,给,不是理所当然的。要感恩。

这样回答还可以吗?

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Saturday Delight

Saturday, September 7, 2013
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Went for a supervisory excellence training for the last 2 days at Amcorp mall.  Kinda is my first time got this external training outside company and I can back off early! That's the part I love about training.
wanna learn how to manager ppl as a team :P
Then I last minutes decide to join HR Fish club's Free movie ticket yesterday.  Right, is friday and is FREE, so why not? We've got GSC signature movie ticket watch 'Riddick'.  Basically is what V.Diesel acted character in this part of movie. Kinda bloody in this movie. My colleague said watch this movie felt pain over him all way long. Agree with it. It is a bit of violence and I actually do not know what is Riddick.  He does looks like human, but he has an eyes that silvery color.  He could not see in the day, but dark is his best vision.  He is from the other planet which wanted to find another planet for his residence to live on, but manatau kena trick by others brought to this alien world. The way he survive is somewhat unbelievable pain, but he does not give up easily though.  Goodness. Does he survive at last? you go watch it.
sashimi!
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I'd saw a friend of mine went to this cafe, and found out it is nearby my house. 
immediately asked my friend to join me breakfast on Saturday.
It is peacefully quiet cause I reached there early.
it is just opposite RT pastry and on 1st floor.
when you touch down the corridor, you will see this delicious menu.
breakfast set is recommended.
I recommend coffee lover to try there. all they mostly have is coffee brew one.
As 1st customer waiting friends, I took some picture out of no one.
the menu is very friendly, it shows the different of taste each coffee.
either you want it more bitter or more sour.
While coffee you've got to choose syphon type or hand drip type.
it is smoking area, considering balcony type
with long bench sushi bar high chair
brightness shines in, create a relax atmosphere.
few red sofas and coffee table for friends chatting
tables available for eating

I chose syphon home blend coffee.
I love to drink coffee, but mostly I blindly drink coffee. I like to add sugar for some bitter sweetness.
I always thought coffee is bitter, but afterwards will be sweet as depend on your taste buds.  
I had forgot about the sourness contrast or bring out the original tastiness of the unique coffee.
And today I taste it. I drink it without sugar this time. Firstly bite a small piece of biscuits, sip one gulp, and the aromas just slide down your throat and stay in your mouth and nose. First time ever love this feeling.
my weekend breakfast set (without coffee)
another more cheesy breakfast set with coffee included.

And I got the chance to meet this little one.
she is shy when meeting me.
then she sit there quietly observe me as to adapt to me (this aunty)
bring out the hello kitty stationery set and she is so happy nao
immediately after that she quite get use to me and 'friend' with me.
she even show me this face that looks like the funny pic in her mum's phone.
then I catch her to take more selfie picture.
She pose whatever I'm doing. FUnny and cute.
her mum that said.. this two big and little crazy fella. 
Well, who is she? she is my god daughter lar. teehee.

Address:
Await Cafe
9-1-5, Jalan 3/109F, Taman Danau Desa, 
58100 Kuala Lumpur.
Business Hour: ( Mon-Wed) 11.00am- 8.00pm
                       (Fri) 11.00am-8.00pm
                       (Sat- Sun) 9.00am- 8.00pm
                       Off every Thursday
Contact: 03- 7971 0978
Email: info@await.com.my
Website: www.await.com.my
Facebook: Await Cafe



Well, Saturday surfing with facebook really make me super duper envy
I don't know why everyone seems to chose to go vacation on the same period
friends and friends all went to beach already. ARGHHH
I want to... .... ...you all wait I let you all envy me. hahahah!

alright, this is my half Saturday gone to...
next will be a family night and house core iron woman i'll become.
brother now is the chef cooking spaghetti for lunch.
there goes my tummy. 
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