His First Birthday 宝贝，生日快乐

亲爱的， 生日快乐！

这是你第一个生日，愿你快高长大，健康及听话。

这一年里，你让爸爸妈妈成长不少。

怀了你之后，从藉口致生了你之后，完全是不同的东西。

怀着你，前期和后期都很x3累。中期最开心。幸好没有孕吐。

阵痛到生，3个小时，3推你就生出来了，妈妈觉得你很疼我。3小时第一胎算快了。什么麻醉，止痛都没用到，妈妈我很荣幸。

妈妈早已知道，生了你后生活会不一样了：

没有自己的时间。上班后还有给保姆顾·之后，还有些时间补眠。
没什么时间找朋友喝茶聊天。就算带着你，也怕给人拐走。不能专心听朋友讲话。
不知道挤奶喂奶要这么久。天真以为喂了就好，但没想到胃浅的宝宝，需要少吃多餐。
以为新生儿，喝就睡，哭了再喝。。。不是的！每一个小时醒，再陆续没4小时换尿片等。。
要哄入睡简直想要个催眠专家。
家务要及时做，不然播报敏感。
在家没时间保养，随便拿化妆水撒在脸上就好。
短讯忘了回。
出门要带一座山的东西，回来又要整理。

虽然如此，有了你，我们才会在以上的事物有所更改。
妈妈学会了自律，妈妈学会了哄你，妈妈知道你哭时要什么（大概）。

爸爸妈妈知道要有更好的精力来追你，希望我们能专心陪你。 （粘手机）
我们不太介意是否错过你的第一次，但是一定要分享给我们，我们其实很期待一下。

妈妈不奢望你考第一（当然不要最后一名）、长牙比别人快、跑比别人快、还是比人会走。
妈妈希望你有个好童年，开开心心长大，学习生活自律，独立，会解决问题，沟通良好，做着你热爱的工作，能养活自己便行。我要求也很多吼？

爸爸妈妈爱你！

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Weekdays 周一至周五

以前很期待周末的说，现在变成另一种期待。。。
比较期待平日的说。。。。但是周一至周五放工后都忙。

虽然我儿子周一至周五都交给保姆日夜顾，但平时也没什么时间休息。做么呢？

周一
早上交孩子给保姆后，就是每天堵车去上班，上班，午餐下班堵车回家都7.30pm/8.00pm了，自己时间就这样开始。
开始将宝宝用过的一切，丢进洗衣机。包括床单，枕头套，抱枕套，衣服等。在洗衣机滚动的同时，我就去冲个凉。出来吹个头发，吃个饭顺便看戏。然后凉衣服，铺个新床单。就这样，10点了哦。再来泵下奶，收拾一下就很累了。

周二
从放工回来，有时和老公来个约会。看个戏都半夜了。回家还要冲凉泵奶。弄好已经凌晨1点。。。
不然就是回家， 整理和收拾昨日晒的宝宝衣。再把自己的衣服洗和晒，这时比较松一点。然后连续看2部戏。 有时处理一下交付单子或弄一下照片。。。这样又一天。

周三
赶回家冲凉吃饭，再整理东西，拿给保姆和探望儿子。这样回到家就是10.30pm。挤下奶就睡觉去。。。

周四
由于宝宝周五就回来，所以今天是打扫日。回来立刻吸个尘，冲凉吃饭。抹地就让他做。
再来手抹玩具等宝宝用品。泵下奶，就提早睡了。因为周五会用更多精力。

周五
去妈妈家吃晚饭，因为可以一起照顾宝宝，我不用等老公回来才可以吃饭冲凉。
但是上班累了，回来‘开夜班’ 顾孩子，根本很吃力。隔天到周1为止，都打不起精神啊。。。

我无法想象，每晚接孩子回来照顾宝宝的家长。如果宝宝一觉睡到天亮，那我觉得还好。
若像我宝宝，一定起来2到3次，我会上班集中不到，打瞌睡的那种。
真的，有这类的家长。简直佩服他们。
宝宝万岁！！！

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What a baby give you, as a parent?

Being frustrated over cranky baby, sleepless night, breast feed and pain boobies, using all your resting time, could not go for a shopping day, having a nice peaceful meal, movie marathon, buffet or enjoying coffee morning in a cafe... what else?

All these negatives thought will always cling on you if you keep thinking of it, you will just be as negative as you are and never get rid over it. Why want to lives in such unhappy way? Why we could not think of the gaining we are having?

Being googled after a while, and cross over with my experience, this is what I feel about having a baby. Yes you, my son, with love.

1) Being a parent, appreciate your parent more.
It is just like, you are standing in their shoes. Yes, I said 'in' not 'on'. You understand how they feels and why they did these in the past.  Everything they are doing now and then, you feels like amazing, great and thankful. Really appreciate their helping hands. We are lucky that both our parents are just nearby. Any helps required, they are just few steps away and they are so happy and willing to help out. I would never feel so touched. We feel like we are still being pampered by them even we already a parent.
Well, they said, once parent, forever parent. I think I kinda understand now. :)

2) Baby adores you.
Any sound you make, every gestures, eye contact, bathing them, changing them, feeding them, tells story, no mater how bad is your singing tones, my baby is the best audience! My top and only fans.
They laugh with you no matter what you do or play with them, or just being silly. They slept even I sing out of tunes, they listen to you sometimes (Not always). Puppet shows are their favorite show.

3) Make new friends
Have you ever feel that.... the colleagues that seldom talk to you, suddenly you have so much to talk to? Even in the nursing room, we can chat non stop sometimes.
Then, to my in law. I seldom talk to them because I do not know what to talk about (I am very quiet one)  Now, we have more to share about.
Those neighbor, we had never realized before, suddenly they will just talk to you : How old is your baby? Boy or girl? etc
Friends that we are hardly contact, suddenly we will chat, and they are all helpful, giving all good information, such as baby sales, good products, experience on teaching children, good neighbourhood kiddie/nursery, breastfeed experience, how to manage sick baby.

4) Good EQ
When others' baby is crying, you won't feel annoying, you feel empathy, not angry. Cause they as parent will have some outbreaks that we all understand.
When others' is getting your way, you will be just, nevermind lah
When things won't get in the way you want, you will be just like, let it be.

5) Accepted that you do not need  to be perfect
Messy house, toys, Toilet stains, basin dirt, a mountain of laundry, dusty racks...children grows continuously to test you. When you get use to holding them while feeding, they do not want to be hold any more. when you likely to feel that you are changing them fast enough, they will flipped faster than you change them. When you feel that you able to cope with the flip, they already wanted to stand and start crawling. When you ready to catch them from fall, they already want to RUN. When you feel that you are fine because you joined a lot of marathon (not saying me), you could never imaging how hard is to chasing a tiny person. Why? Because they are tiny, they can run through all the tiny holes or crowds beneath your view, you could just always bump on others than catching them. "You worry less about achieving the ideal in anything, from the state of your house to the inside of your purse." - well said.

6) You built a FAMILY
I still cant believe I gave birth to this cute son.  Once we had a kid, husband and I is a team. and this little guy, is all mine!

Do you agree for the above?

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照顾孩子过程1

可能这是个抱怨的帖子，也可以当着是我们经历的一切，老老实实写出来吧！

无可否认，老人家有很多说法，说：在宝宝面前别说坏或好话。。定义？宝宝永远会将话反射行为却是相反。例如：宝宝好乖，宝宝听后，就不乖，是，马上变不乖？我不知道。当你发现时，或许可能太迟了。你说我信吗？还好吧。。。老人家说别说，就别说，那，我用写的。那那。。我可没说哦！ 若有天我孩子看到这，不知他敢想如何？希望他体谅我们父母的苦，孝顺我们多一点（不需用钱来回报，多多花点时间，谈亲爱就好）。

我开始写啦。。。不不。。。补充，我真的很佩服妈妈们，佩服全职妈妈，佩服那些顾2、3或更多孩子的保姆们。。她们的经验可不是开玩笑的。顾孩子是个学问，很想请保姆们开课给新手爸爸妈妈。不然。。。就像我们这样：

1）换尿布/冲凉时，常被孩子供’茶‘（尿）或’巧克力（粪）。
2）每次哭，都要动脑经。。宝宝是怎么了。。。
3）不睡觉，每小时睡醒是怎么回事？
4）什么可以吃，不可以吃
5）这奶瓶不适吗？衣服够软吗？什么牌好呀
6）网购都是宝宝用品
7）要抱吗？好像不能惯呀。
8）怎么又呕奶，是喝太多了？
9）打喷嚏，很冷哦？加衣服、被单；不对，是鼻子痒而已？
10）怎么又哭了。。。在大便吗？
11）今天没大便呢。。怎么办？
12）黄疸是什么？我们能做什么？又要抽血？
13)  妈妈又石头奶，痛死了。很想放弃，却不忍心。。手挤吧，不能，那机器挤。。也不能，痛了十多小事才挤出。
12）啊！笑了！（以上的事，就忘了）

一个字：累
这只是开始，还有很远的路。。。

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为人父母

当妈后， 不是你想象简单。医院实行让妈带24小时，试想想，我凌晨3点醒， 8'30早上用九牛二虎之力，生了个宝宝，整天没睡，伤口莫名隐隐作痛，站也不是，坐也不是。宝宝哭了就勤喂。真的没时间入眠。
晚上，以为可以睡了。。。但情况不是那样。老公要睡地上，没有而外的躺椅，但却有陪睡就好。隔壁没病人。 本以为很好奇。 半夜1点，有人进病房。老公不得回去睡觉，留我一人。
我是新手，被逼坚持下去。连抱，我都怕弄伤，我不会换尿布，喂奶也只能让宝宝吸，不知对吗。 若其他原因他哭，我真的不知道怎办。
晚上根本没睡，很紧张，第一次呐。折腾了整个晚上，很多时候宝宝醒着，需要我喂。然后又哭时，我就叫护士。没办法。。。
到了早上，另一个医生来了，说要查黄疸，然后，因为她们有拿宝宝的一点脐带血去验蚕豆症，他们说怀疑宝宝有蚕豆症，需住院5天观察。我好崩溃。我想回家，我不能每晚一个人照顾他。我需要一个训练课先，好吗?
当时我很累，情绪差，我想很多，该和宝宝一起还是我先出院? 该死的双人房，每次吵醒宝宝。十分累。一边想出院，另一边我父母坚持我留下陪宝宝。 唉。。。 顿时难过哭了，在众人面前。 幸好老公和我一起。当晚，他也留下，他说他可以睡在客房的沙发， 我们轮流。
我们七手八脚弄好宝宝。其时间我也只睡一小时最多，大多数喂奶，然后他哭，我也醒。老公和我不会换尿布，就叫护士帮忙，我们在一边学。宝宝换尿布也哭很大声。他有时呕奶，衣服湿了，叫护士帮，我们也在一边看。 包他时，我们手脚慢，护士看不过眼,  帮我们包，我们也在一边趁机学。就这样，我们敢敢来，越来越熟悉了。 虽然老公还怕帮他更衣换尿布，因为他一哭， 老公就乱了阵脚。而我，管他哭到比例吧啦，就是稳稳换好。 我鼓励他是可以的，只要想一心为他好，宝宝哭也不怕了。 总于，老公也可以自己亲为了。
周六周日，他妈妈会中午留下几小时照顾宝宝，我们可以获睡。我也累得竟然在家婆面前睡了。
第3天宝宝哭到不行，亲喂到我奶头痛，换尿布了，还哭。。。实在不行，我们才用奶粉。果然他很饿了。我便想办法挤奶。幸好带了挤奶器。挤了20ml, 也算满意。虽然他是喝不饱的。

 第4天晚上，我们总于换到单人房。 其实双人房和单人房价钱一样。第五天，他需要照灯，黄指数高了点。 但是可以出院了!
出院时，一堆文件和事情要讲给我们听。我当时累到不行，听不进去。还让老公听就好。哈哈哈。就这样，晚上带回家了!

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Taobao baby clothes

Since I am taobao lover, I'm sure won't go the chances of buying baby things there.
Overall, is bout RM10 per piece for baby clothes... I mean averagely. Material are better than adult one for sure....

Here we go:

Mittens: It is soft and quite big. luckily there is string for you to tie it.

Link here :Mittens

Bibs: bibs for the saliva, these are so yeng!! RMB16.8 come with 3pieces.

 At the back is towel materials

Link here: Bibs

Long pants with leg wraps

Suitable for aircond room use.

Link: Pants

One piece romper, long sleeves and pants

I bought various sized, from 0 to 9 months size. 1 pc about RM10.
link: Long rompers

Gong xi fatt choi romper... lolz, bought for CNY.

 I bought for new born size but it seems like can wear till 6 months old.

 Kinda thick and suitable to bring to aircond place.

link: Chinese romper

Converse socks

 So tiny!!!

 suitable for new born

 Inside:

Link: converse socks

Animal socks

 good elastic and very cute!!! I think nice for baby boy. hehe

Link: Animal socks

Will show you more next when my next stocks came ya~

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Mama Journey 3 & others

My 1st journey & 2nd journeys you can view it all HERE.

My 2nd trimester is really enjoyable and carefree for the moment. Coming to 3rd trimester already and I started to worry bit.
Emotional not ready, with some excitements and also worry that how to handle a new born.
I am afraid I'm not doing well for confinement cause I'll be assist by my mum in law.
So far have yet really stay there for so long.. for one month, I'm a bit shivering... hahaha
Yet very thankful she is able to help me. I hope I did not bring any trouble for her.

Leg cramp started once and I don't hope to happened again >.<"
Stomach bit bloated now and then.
Kicking is more and you will get shocked when you in the middle of meeting or working.
He tends to sway to left or right a little while...like playing with me.
Hips, tights are getting fatter!!!! Doctor said I must control weight. Big appetite.
A bit hard to lay down or bend my body. Hard to get up in speed..
Pee frequently.
Hair lost.

What am I doing during this 2nd trimester?

1) EAT!

 Out of no where, I am craving for waffle quite often

I keep mentioning, cause he is not a dessert fav guy. Yet he bring me go to Owl cafe.

This really cure my thirst.... He thought I can't finish this huge waffle...

But, I finished it!

Went to Genting a night for a chilled

 Not eating ice-cream for 5 months already... and this is the 1st after all

God damn good!

 enjoying...

Ok, I know is expensive. but 5 months only got to eat once, must choose nice one la...

 

 Really wished to sit there, drink so coffee, but I endure it.

Plus hubby keep dragging me away :(

Next is Annual Dinner!!!

Too bad this year's dinner is on friday evening

Too bad no lucky draw

 Got to take picture with my ex team. Still so young and crazy!

 My first time expose baby bump and truely announce in facebook that I'm pregnant.

Got a lot of blessings!

Colleagues are all quite jaga me. T.T

 With darl darl below:

 In order to train her makeup skill, I got to let herself do her own.

I can't be always there for you....

She did improve a bit, but ah.. still cannot balance her left eye and right eyes.

So, at last gonna touch up for her.

 Selfie before I deliver. lolz

Hardly ever makeup already after this

 Bought this flat from Taobao.

Kinda love it, because wont painful, but it did make my toes cramp cause pointy front

 Food. This year I ate the most. hahahaha

 alright, end of Annual dinner story

Durian become my 2nd favourite.

Since my hubby Loves to eat durian, he will bought every week

I'll steal 4 pieces to eat. Damn nice

Some is XO, D24, or musang king.

I think this durian is better than mc Furry even I can't manage to try Mc Furry

 Alright, doctor stop me from eating already

Gain 3kg every month is like too much. 9 months of pregnancy, means I will gain 27kg?!

So I also preffer better stop

But how can I control!!? I now truly understand why others are hard to diet.

Because you need to eat when you hungry!

Well, is not like old people said, you need to eat double, because you have baby.

No, is just normal portion every KL ppl took, I took!!

yeala,h, last time I can't finished the one dish I ordered.... now, i just don't waste it.

 So, I will make my own food more often.

Less white rice, took wholemeal bread. prefer less sugar....

No more milo, eat oats when hungry

Take gluten free biscuits... I wan less fat still wan keep my stomach full.

 All these are my favourite!

 Family bonding

He tends to come with idea to be with family

He rather cook than go out eat

 These are the dishes he prepared.

 I always wanted to took this photo with my dad if I'm pregnant. lolz

He is sporting enough to join me, here you go..

who is larger??

 group picture

BEST HUBBY

I know he doesn't like bout other's feet. 

Sometime he quite pantang...

I still request his help when he cut his nails.

I asked: can help me... cut feet nails please?

He: Ok, wait me finish first.But I not that good wor, might cut your flesh..

I was like: erm... ok, try bah..

 my nails are nicely cut, no blood. hahaha

BUY BUY BUY

Taobao always best when come to buy things

Now is baby clothes and belonging.

I think baby clothes are more better than adult one.

Below are my shopping hauls:

 socks

 clothes with variety of month

from new born to 9 months old

 I really hope baby can wear all

I asked experience mama, they said need at least 10 pieces for each month

Ok, buy!!!

From Genting outlet padini

Parkson

Taobao

My baby is truly being pampered even before birth

 Top from aunty Cindy

 Romper from aunty Miao

Doughnut bib from aunty Miao too.

They are all so lovely!!!!

Thank you all for the gift.

That's all!! I will go taobao again, hehehe.

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